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Chivalry is dead, as it should be
There is a contradiction that exists in our society today: We want women to have equal rights, however we still expect men to be chivalrous and courteous. The ideal man is no longer a "knight in shining armor" but is now a glorified, well put together man who holds the door open for a woman, is always polite and respectful, and goes out of his way to do everything for his lady. But two major problems exist with this school of thought:

It's debilitating to the woman. When women expect men to always be chivalrous and romantic, and act out of kindness and politeness, this ends up being something that hurts women in the long run. It implies that women need someone in their lives to care, protect and provide for them. This takes us back in time; it's a step in the wrong direction.

When women demand equal rights, but also expect their significant other with "chivalry" and always expect them to pay on dates, provide for them, etc. this is essentially putting women back into the kitchen and giving men the role as the protector and provider. If women truly want equal rights and respect, women must stand on their own two feet and show that they do not need a man to be chivalrous. Equal rights is about equality and equal roles; women should be not only granted the right to be chivalrous, but expected to be chivalrous just as much as men are.

Chivalry forces men into a box and makes them think they must be chivalrous. Some men just naturally aren't as strong and brave as others; they are more reserved in their nature. Others are very robust and naturally confident. With chivalry and the idea behind masculinity, it forces men to be the stereotypical macho guy that, in one point in history, was a strong warrior in the battle field, but upon returning home to his loved one was full of class and treated her with respect and catered to her every need.

That's not to say that men can't be strong warriors, or in our modern world, the "bread winner" and the main provider. That's also not to say that men should not treat women with respect. They should. But why is there this societal pressure that exists, that forces men into being the provider, the strong one and the stereotypical macho guy?

Why is it not acceptable for the man to stay at home and take care of the kids, to be sensitive and want some love and affection from his partner, to make less than a female in his relationship?

Its ideas like this behind chivalry that should be stopped and prevented in order to move forward for equal rights for not only women, but also men. This is one of the most prominent problems with feminism: feminists often idealize men as being "chivalrous" and fail to realize that this is sexist and a step back in the wrong direction.

Chivalry is essentially a social code where the men are to take responsibility for both parties' actions, and must provide and take care of their women. Why can't women stand on their own two feet and be able to take care of themselves?

Why aren't women expected to pay on dates and hold the door open? Why do men always have to make the first move? Its problems like this that hold both sexes back when they fall prey to the school of thought of feminism.

How Do Men Benefit From Feminism?

In short, they don't.

Going back to the Middle Ages and throughout history, men were often painted as being ideal if they were very masculine, the provider for their family, and strong, and this thought process is still very present in the minds of many feminists to this day. Feminists want it all; they want women to be placed on a platform with men down below kissing their feet.

Feminists love to complain about "rape culture", being treated poorly by men who aren't financially stable, and then are able to turn around and say that they aren't being treated equally by society. If women are treated so much worse than men, why is it that:

  • Men are expected to pay on the first date and are always handed the bill at the end of a dinner?

  • Child custody battles almost always go in the women's favor?

  • Women are often granted maternity leave and laws exist for them to stay at home in many nations, but it often excludes the men, as if they don't want to spend time with their newborn child?

  • Men are expected to hold the door open for women?

  • Men are labeled as "weak" for crying and showing emotions, whereas when a women does, it's completely socially acceptable?

  • Society, including police officers, laugh off domestic violence cases when it involves a women beating a man? But when the situation is reversed and a man hits a woman, even in self-defense, he is normally prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law?

  • Women can report being raped when they have sex with someone under the influence of alcohol or drugs simply because they regret it, whereas men are never able to?

Feminism is about creating a losing situation for men and raising women up onto an untouchable platform, where they can do no wrong. There are certain advantages to being a man, as there are certain advantages to being a women. Feminism fails to realize this and rather focuses on the negatives of their sex and blames men for it.

Feminism is the failure to look behind the scenes and analyze statistics and facts. For example, feminists love to complain about the "wage gap" however, fail to realise that the wage gap actually lies in differences of choices between the two sexes. Women and men often pursue different majors, career paths, and lengths of time in the workforce.

According to research gathered in an article in the Huffington Post, "Economics majors (66 percent male) have a median income of $70,000; for sociology majors (68 percent female) it is $40,000." Feminism fails to take facts into consideration and rather bark what they feel and think about society.

So, a message for the ladies: pick up your own tabs instead of expecting men to do it for you. Don't idealise a man to be chivalrous. Don't claim that chivalry is dead like it's a bad thing. Men should treat you with respect and provide for you, but it should be an open, two way street. Why aren't you expected to hold the door open? To provide for the family?

As for the men: Let her pick up the tab. Don't feel obligated to be the provider. After all - that's the equal way of going about things.

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